Everything in life is cyclical, and the words we choose to use is no exception. If that sounds crazy, think of it like this- when we were young, we had two different experiences with the power of words. We suffered either negative, unhealthy words, that tore us down; or we were blessed with beautiful words that were uplifted us. No matter which side of the coin you experienced, those words became images, and confirmed a ‘type’ of self-belief. Even as adults, we are still reconfiguring those self-beliefs all the time. Unfortunately, the negative words often become so deep seeded that it takes a lot of work to remove them. Fortunately, it is possible to change those habits.
Removing negative words of the past takes 3 realizations. First, let it go. It is in the past, which no longer exists. Also, consider this… The person who called you names or said “you can’t…” learned those words from someone else, and they were then handed down to you. When you can look back at those moments and realize that the other person suffered so deeply, that they shared that ugliness as if it was normal. you can find a place in With this information it is possible for your heart to really feel for them. With that realization, you can break the cycle with compassion.
On to third step. What are we really saying?!
Everyday we choose the words we use; but it’s more than words, it’s the power and intention behind those words. As Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Intentions creates our realities.” Simply meaning, each word you use, has meaning, and those meanings are sculpting your perception of life. That’s unbelievable amount of power. So what happens when, you say “I’m not good enough” or “I am enough.” (Hint: this is a tricky one) Cleary, when you say, “I’m not good enough” it resonates within you. In fact, you are probably more than likely not to move towards your goal, let alone with your full attention. Although, if you say, “I’m enough, I can do it” you will probably will do it; but will you excel? Probably not. That’s because of the intention behind the label, enough. The word enough, is defined as, how much or as many as required. Essentially, you say “I am enough” you are really saying, I can barely meet the goal. That doesn’t exactly instill confidence. So, let’s remove “good enough” from our vocabulary, because you are more than what’s required, you can succeed beyond enough.
How can you make changes such as these? Here are three quick tips on how to direct the intention of your words.
Think before you speak. This can be a difficult task, because of our quick paced culture. We are always in a hurry and always going. Although, that’s how mistakes are made. So stop, take a breath, and then speak what you really want to be your reality.
If you are having trouble in a particular area, perhaps remembering how beautiful you truly are. Write a mantra, that you can say to yourself a few times a day. This will help create the habit of choosing the right words, as well as creating a more positive future.
Lastly, if you do happen to fall into that cycle of negative words and painful intentions. Recognize it, reflect on what had happened, make adjustments, forgive yourself and move forward. Remember what you say to yourself, is just as valuable as what you say aloud. Be kind and compassionate.
I know this is a lot to absorb. Especially, since many of us need to change those deep seeded habits. However, let me remind you – you can do this. You can create your reality, using right intentions in the words you chose to use, both to others and yourself. You are beyond enough!